Taking Ownership

It’s very empowering to be able to own who you are, what you stand for and where you are at this point in your life. To do this will bring you to a place of standing in the present moment and give you a wonderful opportunity to enhance and grow any area you feel unsure or unbalanced in.

If you regularly feel like you’re on an emotional roller coaster, this could be a sign that you need to take a good look at where you are in your life. Stepping back and looking at your life situation from another point of view allows you to identify the core of what is keeping you stuck or continually questioning situations.

To do this, create a space clear of distractions and try to clear your mind. Then ask yourself about the key areas of your life. This can sound like:

  • Do I have a healthy work/life balance?
  • Am I happy with my relationships?
  • Do I feel understood?
  • Am I on the right career path?

If something jumps out at you, simply acknowledge that where you are in this present moment is a result of your thoughts and actions up until now. Take ownership of your situation, in a way that makes you feel empowered. Try your best not to be critical of yourself here- falling into negative thoughts is not the way to acceptance and happiness.

This is a great activity as it highlights just how important our thoughts are, and how they create our present day reality.

To move forward after what might be a light-bulb moment, ask yourself – does something need changing?

Could you…

~ Stand proud in knowing what an amazing creator you are?
~ Start receiving as well as giving?
~ Take a little more time to practice some self love?
~ Acknowledge the great things about others you spend a lot of time with?
~ Be less judgmental on others?
~ Be less judgmental on yourself?
~ Stop making excuses/blaming others?
~ Change your perception?

In short, step back and know that the shoes you’re standing in today are well worn and comfortable, but is that only because you haven’t tried another pair? It might mean you stand taller and are more comfortable and can walk easier in life. The great news, and the truth of the universe is that we are on a constant path of growth and expansion, so allow yourself to be true to yourself in bringing in any changes you think will enhance your life!

Here is a simple statement for you to say out loud:
I am a powerful creator
I create my own reality
I choose to create the life of my dreams

Sacred Relationships

There is nothing more wonderful than being in a loving nurturing fulfilling relationship, and young love can be captivatingly magical. As we all know, the honeymoon period comes to an abrupt end sometimes and leaves some feeling alone, lost and disconnected.

All relationships have their stages, and there are some great books on this subject like Men are From Mars by John Gray, and the Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman to help us navigate our way and add to our understanding of the opposite sex.

But in our busy society, sometimes the soul basics are simply overlooked, emotions and ego gets in the way, children come along and distract us from each other, work becomes all consuming and stressful, and the list goes on.  Where does that leave our relationship?

I will give you the simplest answer to building on the foundation of a relationship that has lost its way.

Men – treat your wife/partner like your Queen

Women – treat your husband/partner like your King

The End

When you treat your partner like the King or Queen that they are, you will feel absolutely amazing because you will benefit from their response. There is such a diverse range of responses that can occur but you can expect to feel a lift in your heart, passion return, desire rising to a new level and intimacy take a gigantic leap.

You alone know your partner best, but here are a few tips:

1. Remember, love is not demonstrated in words, but in actions.

2. In the morning, greet your lover and take a few moments to start the day together with a cuddle

3. Make them a cup of tea or a packed lunch, filled with love in the making

4. Listen to them, actually look at each other and listen – and very importantly, listen without the intention of responding. Just listen, yes, just listen. Did I stress this enough? We have been so conditioned to be getting our response/answer ready that we miss the whole point so many times. No wonder arguments start over seemingly nothing. Feel how important you feel when someone actually listens to you and allows a silence without having to fill it.

5. Arrange quiet time with no tv or phones, just some music, some wine or tea and candles to just sit and talk, or hold hands, foot massage….. create the atmosphere and the ambience will invite openness.

6. Go for a walk, a picnic, a hike, a ride….. just be outdoors

7. Truly put them first and simply honour and respect them in action and words, then see what flows back.

The secret to finding happiness

Finding happiness is the Holy Grail, what we’re all searching for in life. The secret is simple yet challenging to practice; look within.

Our conditioned mind tells us to seek happiness in material possessions and to judge it on the relationships we keep and success we attain.

But when we truly find happiness, all these things become obsolete.

When Eckhart Tolle first experienced enlightenment (although he didn’t know it had that label at the time) he spent months sitting on a park bench, completely awe struck by the beauty of the world.

Unfortunately for Eckhart, this occurred after years of unhappiness. But rest assured, this doesn’t have to be the case for the rest of us!

The two key practices that are fundamental to living a life beyond your wildest dreams are simple and the best part is that you can start practicing them both today without any materials or sign up fees!

Connect with the present moment

“If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place. As soon as you honour the present moment, unhappiness and struggle dissolve and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care and love – even the most simple action.” – Eckhart Tolle

Practicing presence is the first step to unleashing yourself from the control your conditioned mind (also referred to as the ego) has on you.

The over-thinking and negative self-talk come from the ego, which is something everyone needs to release in order to find happiness.

The ego disguises itself in a variety of what we misinterpret as ‘personality traits’. This ranges from being highly insecure to highly arrogant.

However, the ego is something we can’t survive without, so it’s not  matter of getting rid of it, it’s a matter of taking control of how it “takes care” of us. It is conditioned to think it’s protecting us from harm by keeping us in fear, anger, depression etc., so through self-talk and self-love we reprogram it to lead us with trust, which allows us to surrender being guided by our intuition.

Practice self-love

“Let today be the day you love yourself enough to no longer just dream of a better life; let it be the day you act upon it.” – Steve Maraboli

The ego attempts to stop us from loving ourselves and creates the thought that manifests into the feeling of unworthiness.

Self-love is a key ingredient to release the ego and excel on the journey toward happiness.

Self-love opens the door to loving others unconditionally, as you cannot fully love another until you love yourself.

For those who have never practiced self-love before, here are a few simple exercises to get you started.

  • Instead of setting expectations for yourself, practice affirmations such as, “I now choose to love myself and know that I am worthy of happiness”
  • Every morning and night just after brushing your teeth, tell yourself out loud in the mirror that you love yourself – although this sounds fairly easy, from personal experience and experience with clients, I can assure you this can be quite a challenge. It may be best to first start with a gentler exercise and work your way up to this. An alternate exercise can be moisturising your whole body and beginning to accept and nurture even the parts we don’t like/even hate about our body’s appearance and “talking” to your body while you do this, saying I’m sorry for not liking you and making you feel ugly and ashamed

For further spiritual guidance, or to schedule a spiritual healing session with the author of this post, Carmel Crinnion, please visit www.sanctumhealing.com

 

Overcoming the Fear of Change

This time of Easter brings with it the reminder that death and life are simply a never ending cycle, one does not survive without the other regardless of what timeline we are on, what planet we are on or whether or not we even have a body. It is in the cycle of life and death that miracles happen. Each dying breath we breathe out is followed by a new life giving breath in the next moment, even in our final breath, we breathe life into our new beginning in another dimension of the universe.

So why are we so afraid of death?
Death is change. Fear of change is brought upon by the ego and it’s desire to protect us from the unknown. However when we silence the fear created by the ego, and instead surrender to love, we celebrate change with anticipation and excitement. This shift of mindset, brings miracles into our lives. It allows us to step beyond our fears and into the absolute wonder that lies before us – whether that is to leave our boring job, to change our lazy habits, to take that holiday, to enter that race, to move house, or make that phone call.

Think about any big changes you have made in your life. I know the biggest changes I have made in my life that took me sometimes years to make, have brought me the most profound and magnificent moments and changed the course of my life, and I have absolutely no regrets. Instead I have gratitude.

Is there a situation in your life where you feel stuck? What is holding you back? Is this fear real or an illusion?

To overcome fear of change, add the following affirmation into your daily routine.
I am ready for change in my life
I embrace change in the highest good of myself and those around me
I welcome change to enrich my life
I release all fear and procrastination
I surrender into Love
And so it is

Six tips to reconnect with your soul

Getting caught up in the daily grind is something most of us can relate to. But there are many simple things we can do to prompt ourselves to actively welcome spirit back into our everyday lives and nurture our spiritual journey.

Here are six tips on how to stay connected.

Be kind to yourself

When we hold expectations for ourselves, we are unconsciously allowing our ego in to constantly remind us how we aren’t doing things as well as we should and before long, this turns into constant turmoil of negative self-talk. This all leads to the ego’s number one goal, which is to make us feel like we ‘aren’t good enough’.

To combat this, affirm when you wake up that you are enough and what you achieve today is enough.

For more on this, look out for next week’s blog on how to set goals without letting them turn into expectations.

Schedule time to breathe

Have you ever caught yourself letting out a sigh of exhaustion at around the 3pm mark? Chances are, you haven’t given yourself a break to breathe all day.

A colleague of mine has a reminder to on his watch, which vibrates every 45 minutes to remind him to take a break from his screen and stretch his legs.

The same method can be applied to taking a break to breathe. Set a reminder on your phone or wearable technology that prompts you to come back into awareness for enough time to take three deep breathes in and out and reflect on your intentions and affirmations you set for the day.

Make time to reflect

Keeping a journal is such an insightful way to make sense of your feelings and behaviour. Making time to do this at night just before bed is the best way to implement it into your daily routine and can even help you sleep. There’s something very therapeutic about getting all those thoughts swelling around in your head down on paper!

Trust in the universe

There is no greater feeling of comfort of when you truly believe the universe is on your side. The funny thing is, it’s ALWAYS on your side. But despite that, I’m sure most of us have experienced our ego telling us otherwise!

Connect with your tribe

Whenever I catch up with a friend who is on a similar spiritual path to me, I always leave feeling like I’m walking on clouds.

Connect with spirit

If a mid-week catch up is not on the cards, a great way to make time to connect with fellow spirit junkies is by attending a yoga session or come along to Sanctum Healing’s group meditation. These guided mediations are a much welcome mid-week spiritual shake-up for all attendees. Find out more here.

If you have any tips on how to connect with your soul, we would love to hear from you in the comment section below!

Breaking down conditioned thought processes

It’s easy to find presence and remain in the state of conscious awareness when things are going well, for instance, when;

  • Relationships are blossoming,
  • You’re moving your body,
  • You’re being productive with you time, and,
  • You’re nourishing your body.

And as much as I, along with many others, would like to say I maintain this 100 per cent of the time, I don’t. As Eckhart Tolle teaches in ‘A New Earth’, we aren’t suppose to be perfect, so striving for perfection isn’t something that’s going to make us feel whole and fulfilled.

But what does give us fulfilment is awareness and ability to connect to the now. There is no greater present than the present moment, as the present moment is all we ever have.

“Accept [the situation] than act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.

“Because whatever you fight, you strengthen and what you resist persists.”

So how do we apply this to our lives?be here now

When you wake up in the morning, not feeling like abiding by your routine or daily practice, let the thoughts in your mind drop away, be present, and in presence, you will know if the feeling of not wanting to abide by your routine is a feeling from your true self, or just a thought from your ego, trying to sabotage you into feeling guilty and unworthy.

Throughout our lives, the ego creates conditioned thought processes that are designed to keep you from reaching consciousness. These conditioned patterns keep you on a cycle of identifying with your mind and letting it dictate your feelings and actions. The mind knows it can’t control you once you’ve reached consciousness, which is why it creates these conditioned patterns that feed your ego with thoughts and your pain body with negative emotions.

It’s so easy to give into our ego and beat ourselves up about skipping the gym, eating those hot chips, etc.

The key to releasing negative emotions, such as guilt and sadness, and therefore breaking the conditioned processes of the mind, it to first recognise where these feeling are coming from and if they are real, or if they are the ego’s attempt at trying to sabotage your progress.

Once this has been established, accept the moment for what it is, and what it presents. Work with the moment, not against it.

A few days ago I was feeling lethargic, and didn’t want to go for my morning walk. At first, I laid in bed thinking of what it would mean if I skipped a morning walk. And wondered where this feeling was coming from. I decided to listen to my body, and stayed in bed to honour my tired sore body. Unfortunately for me, I let my conditioned mind overtake, and started feeling guilty for skipping my morning ritual.

When I got up, I sat in presence and reflected on these feelings, and realised that when I do skip exercise, or eat something sweet, most of the time, I (being my ego) make myself feel guilty.

So from now on, when I choose to change my routine or indulge, I will do so consciously and choose to act however love would act. Because as long as the choices we make are made with awareness (and with awareness comes love), the ego has no power over us, and can’t pull us back into unconsciousness.

Sat Nam

First published on Exceptionally You.

 

The Importance Of Self-Love

“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.”
– Thich Nhat Hanh

There is one common trait and shared belief many spiritual gurus live by; if you want to heal your life and reach your full potential, you must practice self-love.

This is something that doesn’t necessarily come easy. Especially for those who’ve faced any type of abuse or neglect in life.

Self -love may not come easy, but from my personal experience it’s a foundation for achieving successful relationships, healthy habits and bliss in life.

The first I heard of this notion; practicing self-love, was when I picked up and read Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life. I learnt that to properly love another, I had to dig deep, and learn how to love myself first.

This required a lot of exercises, one of the first – looking at myself in the mirror and telling myself I was worthy of love, loved, and accepted my true self.

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Sounds easy right? Well, it took me a week of trying every night to achieve saying this without bursting into tears.

Along with the mirror exercise, I said self-made affirmations twice a day (as I woke and before bed) to instill my self-worth. These affirmations went something like, “I am worthy”, “I am enough”, “I am loved”.

The key to doing these exercises, and others, instructed by Louise Hay, is believing in the words and setting the intention of self-love.

After I’d read this book twice, I really started to notice a difference in myself, and so did everyone else. My soul and heart were smiling, and everyone could see it.

I was more in tune with myself, and the greatest reflection of this was my attitude toward myself. I started eating better, exercising, and developed a deep love for all living things.

I was craving being out in nature and enjoying the simple things, like reading a book and spending time with my younger siblings without the distractions of  technology.

I felt truly blissful with all I had.

This sounds like a self-love fairy tale, and I wish is was. But the truth is, I’ve let life get in the way of practicing self-love.

In the past 6 months, there’s been nothing but excuses as to why I can’t exercise or why I don’t spend the time to make food that nourishes my body and nurtures my soul.

So for me, it’s back to the drawing board.

I’m currently reading Eckhart Tolle’s The Power Of Now, and already feel like the words are making my soul shine and heart smile. It’s so nice to have that familiar grounding feeling back!

In my understanding, self-love is fundamental to enlightenment. Without self-love, how are you to understand your full potential, know true bliss and essentially achieve enlightenment?

I feel like I’m honoring myself and practicing self-love when I’m making space and time for the following:

  • Surrounding myself in nature
  • Exercising at a moderate intensity
  • Meditating
  • Spending quality time with loved ones
  • Studying the teachings of spiritual gurus
  • Eating nourishing, unprocessed and organic food

So my question to you is, what are you doing in your life that makes your soul shine?

Namaste

Adding more wellness to your workday

Creating healthy habits at work is key to creating flourishing health and maintaining a good work-life balance.

By adding the simple, yet beneficial healthy habits below to your day, you can improve your quality of life in both the short and long-term.

Drink warm lemon water first thing in the morning

Drinking warm lemon water first thing in the morning boosts your metabolism, supports your immune system, repairs your skin, balances Ph levels, cleanses the urinary tract and freshens breath. According to Nutritionist, Michele Chevally, lemon aids the body with iron absorption. “Vitamin C may increase non-heme iron bioavailability four-fold. This refers to iron availability in the body from non-meat sources.”

Eat a nourishing breakfast

Breakfast is the source of fuel for your day. Filling your body with fibre-rich, low GI foods in the morning helps to stabilise your mood and reduces your chance of sugar cravings later in the day. A few great breakfast options include eggs, oatmeal, fresh fruit and avocado.

Surround yourself with nature

The University of Minnesota recently published an article stating “research reveals environments can increase or reduce stress, which in turn impacts our bodies. What you see, hear, or experience at any moment is changing not only your mood, but how your nervous, endocrine and immune systems are working.”

Whenever possible, it’s important to surround yourself with natural products, including light and air. Open blinds and windows to increase the flow of natural lighting and air. Place plants around your work space and remember to water them. Also head outside for at least five minutes, three times a day.

Create an organised and comfortable work space

“If a cluttered desk is a sign of a cluttered mind, of what, then, is an empty desk a sign?” – Albert Einstein

Ensure your chair is adjusted to your height so that it supports good posture. Poor posture can lead to long-term skeletal and muscular grief. It’s important to try and keep your work space uncluttered to reduce anxiety. The appearance of an untidy work station can be overwhelming for some.

Have a healthy snack stash

Having a stash of healthy snacks can be a life-saver at a time of weakness. Having a designated drawer or basket of snacks on your desk can stop you from heading to the vending machine for that 3pm sugar craving. Good, nutritional afternoon snacks include hummus, raisins, dark chocolate and herbal teas.

Incorporate relaxation, meditation and stretches into your day

A mini meditation is a great way to reset your body when you’re starting to feel overwhelmed. Perform some yoga poses while sitting at your desk, or download a guided meditation and listen to it through your headphones. There are many guided meditations readily available on YouTube.

As Australia is ranked as the ninth hardest working nation among those monitored by The Organisation for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD), racking up 43.2 hours per week, per full-time worker, it’s vital for us all to practice wellness at work.

If you have any tips of your own, feel free to share them with us in the comment section below!

First published on Exceptionally You.

 

Welcome to Sanctum Healing

Hi everybody,

I’m so excited to welcome you to this sacred space that is Sanctum Healing.

I’ve had a strong nudge from spirit to move Sanctum Healing online, to create a community for all you spirit junkies out there and for all those seeking spiritual guidance.

Living a life connected to spirit, while maintaining the upkeep of our day-to-day lives sometimes doesn’t align, and that is okay. My intention, with the help of spiritual guidance, is to provide support to assist you in aligning your life with spiritual awareness.

You can expect regular e-newsletters, which will include links to our latest blogs and the latest news and updates from Sanctum Healing.

The team behind Sanctum Healing will continuously work hard to provide you with all sorts of content, including guided meditations, channeled messages from spirit, to tips on how to attract financial stability and so much more.

I will also be sharing stories of my personal growth and development, in hopes it will encourage anyone out there who is facing hardships, that with persistence and an open heart you too can begin living a life beyond your wildest dreams.

I’m also working on some exciting projects and will post upcoming events such as seminars and retreats – so watch this space!

Me and my beautiful team will ensure Sanctum Healing is as user friendly as possible, and we welcome your feedback and encourage you to voice your stories in the comment sections and let us know what content and advice you seek.

On a personal note, thank you to all my beautiful friends and family for supporting me on my journey, and of course thank you to the universe for your unbounded love.

Sending you infinite love and light,

Carmel xx