The secret to finding happiness

Finding happiness is the Holy Grail, what we’re all searching for in life. The secret is simple yet challenging to practice; look within.

Our conditioned mind tells us to seek happiness in material possessions and to judge it on the relationships we keep and success we attain.

But when we truly find happiness, all these things become obsolete.

When Eckhart Tolle first experienced enlightenment (although he didn’t know it had that label at the time) he spent months sitting on a park bench, completely awe struck by the beauty of the world.

Unfortunately for Eckhart, this occurred after years of unhappiness. But rest assured, this doesn’t have to be the case for the rest of us!

The two key practices that are fundamental to living a life beyond your wildest dreams are simple and the best part is that you can start practicing them both today without any materials or sign up fees!

Connect with the present moment

“If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place. As soon as you honour the present moment, unhappiness and struggle dissolve and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care and love – even the most simple action.” – Eckhart Tolle

Practicing presence is the first step to unleashing yourself from the control your conditioned mind (also referred to as the ego) has on you.

The over-thinking and negative self-talk come from the ego, which is something everyone needs to release in order to find happiness.

The ego disguises itself in a variety of what we misinterpret as ‘personality traits’. This ranges from being highly insecure to highly arrogant.

However, the ego is something we can’t survive without, so it’s not  matter of getting rid of it, it’s a matter of taking control of how it “takes care” of us. It is conditioned to think it’s protecting us from harm by keeping us in fear, anger, depression etc., so through self-talk and self-love we reprogram it to lead us with trust, which allows us to surrender being guided by our intuition.

Practice self-love

“Let today be the day you love yourself enough to no longer just dream of a better life; let it be the day you act upon it.” – Steve Maraboli

The ego attempts to stop us from loving ourselves and creates the thought that manifests into the feeling of unworthiness.

Self-love is a key ingredient to release the ego and excel on the journey toward happiness.

Self-love opens the door to loving others unconditionally, as you cannot fully love another until you love yourself.

For those who have never practiced self-love before, here are a few simple exercises to get you started.

  • Instead of setting expectations for yourself, practice affirmations such as, “I now choose to love myself and know that I am worthy of happiness”
  • Every morning and night just after brushing your teeth, tell yourself out loud in the mirror that you love yourself – although this sounds fairly easy, from personal experience and experience with clients, I can assure you this can be quite a challenge. It may be best to first start with a gentler exercise and work your way up to this. An alternate exercise can be moisturising your whole body and beginning to accept and nurture even the parts we don’t like/even hate about our body’s appearance and “talking” to your body while you do this, saying I’m sorry for not liking you and making you feel ugly and ashamed

For further spiritual guidance, or to schedule a spiritual healing session with the author of this post, Carmel Crinnion, please visit


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